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Kids are getting out of control these days, is the general opinion but what is it that essentially has led to this? How can the innocent souls be born with a natural instinct to create havoc in their parents life? Is this really a generation shift that has made it impossible to tame these wild souls, and expecting them to behave in a certain way is a futile thought? Oh, then why do we still hear that children are like wet clay, and can be moulded according to our will?
An easy answer to that is, yes children are getting out of hand these days, but for a simple fact that we are letting them to. The hands that should have been moulding them into responsible young beings haven’t been doing their bit the right way. Over-pampering and over indulgence has led to a situation wherein young kids these days are getting spoilt in a way they and there parents do not realize until the matter gets all too impossible to reverse. It is thus important for the parents to reflect on their parenting and ponder on how to strike a balance between showering love and affection and at the same time teach their kids some essential life lessons too. If you start early and instill the following habits in your kids, you’ll be proud of yourself for raising a well-mannered child (who maybe naughty but will never run too wild to handle)-
Maintaining good hygiene
Little kids may not like a set routine at start, and cannot make any logic of seemingly weird and annoying things you do to them. Like brushing teeth, bathing the body, washing hands before meals etc. are little things that your child may run from at the beginning but they will soon get used to the same when they realize that there’s no running away. The parents have to be gentle and persistent but should not be imposing. Another good way of developing a habit of maintaining good hygiene in kids is showing them that you follow the same. Kids have a natural instinct of emulating people around them, especially their parents.
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Add some polite words in their dictionary
Teach your kids to say ‘please’ to make a request; ‘thank you’ when someone gives in to their demand; ‘sorry’ when they do something wrong; ‘excuse me’ when they want to speak up in the middle of a conversation. These small polite gestures will go a long way to establish your kids’ good name among your social circle. Now, the point is whether or not your child will understand the value of this. You can make sure they do. Make it clear to them, if and when the use of these social etiquette is required they will not have it their way unless and until they do make good use of them. For example, if you kiddo wants water and hasn’t requested you with a ‘please,’ don’t have him have the water or in case of a mistake committed if the child is not ready to apologize and say ‘sorry’ don’t let the matter settle until he finally does.
Talking the right way
Most of the times kids yell and shout and cry to get their demands met. Call them smart to have caught hold of this tactic early on in their life, but you be smarter and shatter their reliance on such tantrums. We know it is hard to see your child shedding tears or chocking his throat with those endless shrieks, but when you know that their demands are unjust simply don’t give in because once you do, they will follow the pattern again and again to blackmail you. Instead, instill in your child the habit of talking it out with you. Make it clear that if there is anything that can work then that is talking gently and softly. They should learn to be polite and humble, and respect the other person’s right to talk too.
Inculcate a habit of reading
If your child develops a habit of reading early on in life, major life lessons will come to them through books, and this will indeed be a great thing. When the child reads by himself, he will unknowingly come across so many morals and lessons, which he might have felt an aversion from had they been imposed on him by someone else. Most often, kids books come with such subtle morals to make them better humans. Also, a reading habit will help them utilize their time in a productive activity, unlike watching TV or playing video games all the time.
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Instill a Habit of Stepping Out
This one’s really important. And this habit has more to do with the parents than the kids. While the young souls are always too eager to get out and have fun, the over protective parents out there feel it better to keep their kids safe inside the confines of home. The fear of them falling down, getting dirty, catching heat strokes or mingling with bad company; make parents weary of sending kids out to play. One major reason is also because they don’t have the time and energy to accompany them always. But for the over all holistic development of the child this outside exposure is a must for him, and if you restrict their outing at the early stage they may well take the habit of remaining indoors and turn out to be the shy kinds in future. Don’t let that happen.
