The second star to the right, shines in the night for you to tell you that the dreams that you have really can come true- said Peter pan. People who are blessed with a second child in their lives can easily resonate with these words. Arrival of the second baby into parent’s lives can shake up their whole world, in a good way and make you a patient and responsible person. Two mouths to feed, two to sing lullaby to, two to play around with, two to love, two to care for and so forth.
Why you should have a second child ?
If you are financially sound enough to have second baby, then you should definitely go for it. Because he will bring a whole lot of difference not only in your life, but also your first child’s life. Kids without any sibling usually feel sad and somewhat jealous when they see their best friends playing, caring and laughing with their baby brother. Having a second child will also give your first one an opportunity to shower his love and affection on his younger sibling, play around with him, and feel blessed.
The major changes that one can expect with an arrival of a second kid into their lives:
Multitasking, but with 3x speed
If you are blessed with a kid already then you ought to have brushed up your multitasking skills by now, but the second baby’s arrival into your life can put your multi tasking ability into a top gear. If you thought managing a first kid was a tough task, then be ready because handling responsibilities of two babies can turn your whole world upside down. By continuously juggling between your work, household chores, first and the second kid will make you discover a completely different side of yourself.
Planning? It just doesn’t work
Now your elder kid has grown up a little and you are hoping to get your life back on track? Raising two kids together will always keep you on your toes and soon you would understand that planning in your life has become a thing of the past. Two kids of different age groups have different requirements, they have their own sleeping patterns, playing and eating habits. Life with kids is demanding and unpredictable, so it is best to have Plan B. You may or may not be able to avoid chaos altogether, but with a little caution and back up plan, you can make the best out of the loved moments with your kids.
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Experience, Courage and Confidence
With time, you will realize your initial panic and worry about raising two kids will later turn into an experience, boost your confidence, give you the courage to deal with anything in life, and fill your life with positivity.
Fashion and Weight loss
For moms, losing your weight post pregnancy won’t be easy since you will hardly be able to spare any time for yourself. For moms, babies are cynosure, their health and well-being becomes their first priority before their own. Fashion and weight-loss takes a back seat in their lives, sooner you will come to terms with the fact that you don’t look as good as you did before having a second child. Your old clothes won’t fit you anymore. But every now and then, all moms raising two kids should take a break and do some work out. To look after you baby’s health, you will need to look after your own health as well.
Helping your kids adjust to each other
Birth of a second child brings a sense of happiness in your first kid’s life but also a sense of jealously because after a while he realizes that all the love and affection that was showered upon him by his parents alone is getting divided. Somewhere in his heart he abhors sharing the center of attraction with anyone else that he used to enjoy alone. It makes him bitter and sad. It becomes the responsibility of the parents to ensure that second child gets cared for without overlooking the needs of the first one and loving them both equally.
Dealing with two kids will easily leave you exhausted. Handling your work and looking after two kids at the same time sucks every ounce of energy out of your body and at the end of the day all you crave is good deep sleep. You are the one responsible for making sure that your kids are getting adequate sleep, but with different sleeping patterns of two kids, all the screaming and noise that kids make during their bed time will give you sleepless nights.
Raising two kids can be challenging, hectic, emotional, exhausting and so on. You many not get to time for yourself but all the challenges will humble you and make you a better person. You will cherish all the loved moments for your lifetime. But remember to have a second child only when you are well off and financially settled.
Happy second time parenthood !!!