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Many parents out there must be swinging with the difficulty of raising their child. Well, we can understand, it indeed is a difficult job to do and a big responsibility to handle. You need to set certain limits on their activities to inculcate discipline in them. But often parents worry upon the limitations they are setting on their kids. Are the limitations necessary? Are the limitations helping them be a good and a disciplined child. Well, let’s dig a little deep to know what’s the real secret in raising a self disciplined child.
The limits only work if we set them with empathy. You cannot burden your kids with limits and expect them to agree upon every. They will rebel if you aren’t being sympathetic and affectionate. You will have to take them in your love and then make limitations for them. If we talk of self discipline here, we can elaborate it by saying that it is something a person practices by controlling ones own impulses to meet owns own goals. So when we exercise self discipline we are usually giving up on our wants in pursuit of something we want more.
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So every time your child listens to you, agrees to your limit he is shifting his gear from what he wants to follow what you want from him. Doing this he practices regulating his impulses which is building self discipline muscle in the kid. So yes, kids need limitations, they are for their own good. Limitations teach them to be self discipline. Permissive parenting doesn’t help children in anyway, it doesn’t let them exercise self control and thus no self discipline.
There’s a catch. You cannot set limits to them and be rude. You’ll have to be affectionate and sweet. You’ll have to reward them too. Thus being a little empathetic will help you a lot. Say for example your kid is playing basketball, he’s tired and want to take rest but more than rest he wants one more basket. Leaving rest behind and going for the basket will make him self disciplined, so here you can jump in and say that you are going to reward him with a chocolate if he stands up for another basket, the child will and you’ll succeed in the mission of him inculcating ‘self discipline’.
Being empathetic is another point when you dealing with your child and by being empathetic we mean you’ll have to understand your kids. You cannot just set a limit and see it from your point of view, you’ll have to analyse the limit from his point of view too. That’s how your child will internalize with your rules and values. They’ll know that you are on their side and thus will agree to the limitations. Say for example your kids like to run, tell him there’s no harm in running but also tell him to run on the grasses and in the lawn and not on the streets, tell them they can hold your hand and walk on streets and that when you cross the street they can run again. This way he’ll see that you understands his want to run and also that you are guiding him where to and how to. This way he’ll take you on his side and will not rebel to your limit.
So, we guess you are pretty clear here with the secrets you need to get into your life and follow to make your kid self disciplined. We wish you a happy parenting!
