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We live in a world filled with love and complications. There will be uncountable situations where you will feel not to stay near your kids. Ahh!! Don’t worry, nothing is wrong with you and you are not a bad parent. It happens with every parent at some point of time. But, if someone else say that they are not likable, well that’s the moment of turning your fighting mode.
Your kids, you have the right to say anything to them which can help them to grow, but nobody else have the right to say anything wring about your kids. That’s a normal mind set of every parents and that’s correct actually. After, your immense love for your kids, at any point you still feel that you don’t want to be near them, then we have some thoughts which you must read.
Identify your trigger
If you have started feeling that you don’t like being near your child but you also love him, it is the time you start seeking a trigger. You need to hide your feelings , otherwise you can have face several consequences which obviously won’t make you and your child happy and neither it will solve your problem.
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If the reason behind feeling such things is because they are tired, hungry or in pain and start behaving negatively. My dear friend , its normal, you just have to opt for an appropriate step. Which is feed them, help them getting rid of their pain and make them sleep. If, their loud voice and screaming is annoying you the most, then find a place they can yell and it won’t even bother you much.
Find out “Why”
Before getting annoyed and feeling that you don’t want to be with your kids at the moment. It’s better to find out why they are behaving like this. What’s wrong going on with them? What activity of them is turning you off? Is that screaming, clinginess, bad words or bad behavior. Find out that factor and try to deal with it. Most of the parents go through this phase and try to work on them and manage them. This is the only way you can get rid of this feeling.
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Train and discipline unlikable behavior
Some behavior of your child may be unlikable naturally not bad. They are simply the part of their personality which may not work well with everyone. However, there are many behavior and actions which you may not like of your child and so do other like, biting, insulting, beating, hitting, lying etc. You won’t like to change your child’s personality and inherent behavior, otherwise it will disturb your kid’s growth. Therefore, you can train them and correct them when they are crossing their limits. You can decide some signal or code with your kid and when they behave inaccurately with others , you can show them that sign and ask them to correct their tone or behavior.
Fill their love tank
It is very easy for any parent to put them on time out or punish them by taking out all the privileges from their life. Have you ever tried to notice why they are behaving like that. Well, that’s because kids love their parents attention and when they don’t get undivided attention from them, they are likely to act or behave indecently. The only solution is, you should take put some alone time with your kids and do some activities which they love with them. Like cycling, reading, painting, talking etc. We are sure, this will help you and will make your relationship with your kids more strong.
Accept them
Kids need to know every time that they are being loved and accepted inspite of their flaws. But hold on, that doesn’t means that you allow and accept every bad behavior conducted by them. Blaming them and getting isolated is not the solution. You have to start the bad behavior eradication process by showing them attention, acceptance and love. You will soon find out the change in their behavior and also your feeling of not to be with them will vanish slowly.
It’s very normal to not like your kids every day same as it’s normal to love them every day. Hope these ways will help you in handling your kids and make your parenthood more interesting.
