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We are mortals and make mistakes all the time. Totally understandable. But sometimes we make the same mistake time and again such that it becomes our habit. We all know leaving bad habits is like walking on burning coal! Maybe we went too far this time but you do agree that breaking habits is a tough task, right? Its still possible to break habits you are aware of. But what about those that you don’t even know exist in you?
As a man you fall prey to one or many of bad parenting habits but now is the time that you break them and move ahead with your life. Fathering is an aspect of life that you will cherish forever, but you make mistakes in it. Yes, you’ve been making blunders but that itself does not define your love for the baby. You are just unaware but once you go through these habits below, you can identify loopholes in your fathering and make efforts to get rid of them!
Feeling Incompetent
Children tend to show temper tantrums, misbehave in public and showcase a lack of etiquette. As a father it is your responsibility to teach the child good manners but that does not mean you are an incompetent father if your child misbehaves. Many fathers tend to internalize his behavior and takes it as a reflection on himself. Men, see this as a starting phase of your child’s change, be patient and believe in yourself!
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Complaining
Men are more or less in a habit of complaining about their situation regarding their family life. They crib about their kid’s misbehavior, weaknesses as a dad and their wife. Though they also enjoy being a father but fail to demonstrate the same, instead portray negative feelings more. This is not a good impression on the kids, you gotta make conscious efforts to talking about the positives more often!
Yelling
It is natural to lose our cool once in a while, we all can get agitated in tough situations. But yelling on your kids to vent out frustrations is not a good idea. Also when the kids are being adamant on a thing, fathers tend to yell at them to emphasize on their point which again is not a solution. You need to tame your anger and learn to put your point without yelling!
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Being Busy
As a breadwinner for the family, it is obvious that you will be busy with work. But working all the time and missing out the important family moments is not a good idea. Being late or missing altogether fun moments with your kids is same as missing out on bonding opportunities with kids. Not the plan, right?
Being Inconsistent
Disciplining kids has no set rules as such and fathers choose their own way that suits best for their situation. But one thing is to be kept in mind and that is you have to be consistent. Once you have laid down the basic rules you have to be firm and not bend them for your convenience. When you bend rules you are actually sowing the seeds of doubt in your little one!
Conspiring
Many a times when you are at loggerheads with your wife, kids seem a great opportunity to get back at her. When you know that she has told the kids to do their homework before playtime, you might give some relaxation to piss your wife off. But this is confusing your children and it is not good for them to think that their parents are not one unit while parenting!
Demeaning
Many parents are in the habit of criticizing their kids in front of others, which is not a good idea. When you pass negative comments about them or leak embarrassing moments you are basically creating an image that your kids cannot trust you. They might not want to open up with you and will create a wall around themselves, you don’t want that, do you?
These things might have been overlooked till now but it is important for you to look at them in different light. Figure out where you are going wrong, put it right and you will thank us later! You will feel the difference in your kid’s attitude towards you and that will bring you smiles for sure!
